5 Things to Stop Doing Right Now
- Stop calling yourself stupid, dumb, slow, idiotic,
- Stop wanting to be something else other than you
- Stop believing that you can’t have what you want
- Stop using the word FEAR
- Stop thinking that you can’t do
Have you ever thought about how it makes you feel when someone calls you stupid? Tells you that you should be more like your sister? Tells you that you can never have that? Tells you that you should be afraid of something? Tells you that you can’t do that? It’s horrible, isn’t it? Well then, answer this: WHY DO YOU DO IT TO YOURSELF? Stop doing these things right now.
Today is the day.
Today is the day that you can bring some awareness to how you treat yourself. Sometimes it’s just plain violent, isn’t it? Violence has many, many forms and it takes a major tole on your health and life.
I’m dumb. Why did I do that?
Ok, I am so guilty of this it’s sick. BUT, I’ve turned over a new leaf and am paying MAJOR attention to it. If you won’t allow someone else to call you stupid or dumb, why in the world would you do that to yourself? You are the one that is supposed to love yourself more than anyone else. You are the one that should hold the most compassion for yourself. By saying this to yourself daily you are training your subconscious to associate YOU with a horrible word. Take today and make a promise to stop doing this right now. Fill in the blank with something else.
If I was more like…
If you were more like someone else, then you wouldn’t be YOU. Helloooo, super simple. If you were more outgoing like your little sister, then you wouldn’t be sweetly shy with a chill vibe like YOURSELF. I’m going to tell you a little story folks:
Once upon a time, there was a young lady named Elli. She worked with some awesome people. When she started working closely with Oliver she noticed that he was articulate and very direct when making a point. He spoke with ease and the dictionary eloquently floated out of his lips, one word after another turning into magical light bulbs of knowledge. Hmmmm, when Elli spoke she used simple language as her hands went flailing all around the room. When she began talking it was as if the plane took off, made a HUGE loop, then a figure eight, then a nose dive, then a straight shot, another quick little loop and then BOOM, her plane landed directly on the point she was making. Oliver made his point in 5 minutes and Elli made hers in 10.
Elli started really wanting to speak like Oliver. She felt that if she spoke this way, people would take her more seriously, or realize that she was an educated young lady. She tried and tried and each time she bombed (what she thought was a horrible meeting speech), she would feel bad about herself. Even “dumb.”
Well, thank goodness for light bulbs because one lit up in her mind one day that changed everything! She somehow came to the realization that she had her own unique style of speaking. Although she understood all of those fancy words, she used simple language, which meant that she could reach all types of audiences. She used her hands and fingers and was animated, which expressed emotion and passion. Yes, she took the plane for a few loops before she landed the plane, but it worked. She wasn’t Oliver, and trying to be like Oliver when he spoke was not AUTHENTIC at all! It made it worse because people probably spent more time thinking about what was wrong with her rather than listening to what she was saying.
This realization was so important because she was able to use it to teach other people that she mentored on all sorts of stuff, how important it was to be authentic because if your not, your message won’t be real. You feel me?
I’ll never be able to have…
How many stories do you have to read or hear about people making something out of nothing? If they can, why can’t you? YOU CAN. There is always a way, but you know what? Most people want what they want NOW. They don’t want to put forth the effort, the thought process, the struggle, the passion, the, the, the, to get to where they want to go. They want to press the button to the top floor and forget the good ol’ staircase. There is beauty in the staircase. With each step we take, the texture changes from smooth, to cracked, to shiny, to dull. With each step, our strength increases. There IS a way to have what you want or be what you want to be. Stop saying that you never will be able to have a new car or be a doctor, because if you really truly want something, you won’t make one single excuse, If you do make excuses, then you just don’t want it that bad. (this was said directly to me by my brother and it hit home at the time)
So stop doing this right now.
I’m afraid that this will happen if…
Fear stifles our passion, our creativity. It creates procrastination and freezes us, therefore creating stagnation. How gross and sticky does that sound? It makes me feel like I’m out and about in a sky full of clouds and an atmosphere full of haze with 100% humidity. Yuck!
What are we really afraid of? How will that person react? What if it doesn’t work out? What if I lose it all? What if they say no? What if, what if, what if… is all I hear, you know what I mean?
If you break it all down it’s simple:
That person gets mad and starts yelling. So? That’s not in your control and it’s not your problem they don’t know how to listen and think before they speak. Not to mention that it’s their choice to react and wreak havoc on their health. Have a nice flu!
If it doesn’t work out, then you know. Or you gave up too soon before you could really find out.
If you lose it all… What does that actually mean? That you will be naked and be sleeping outside without ONE person in the entire world to help you out for a second? Chances are slim people.
If they say no, then you have an answer. Move on.
Remember, “what ifs” create imagery in your mind that doesn’t actually exist. They throw you right into the future (that hasn’t happened yet) and not in the present (where the answers are) while creating unnecessary anxiety.
I can’t do that…
Ehhh, yes you can, you are simply choosing not to. And if you can’t do it right in that second, you can start to try. I have an idea, just say you don’t want to. As soon as you tell someone you can’t, then they start thinking of reasons why or ways how you can’t. If you say I don’t want to, and are straight and up front, the conversation is over.
The more you say you can’t, the more you train your mind in the negative. What you say, what you repeat, becomes embedded in little circuit boards in your brain that start blinking when you are presented with something new. Why not train them to start blinking in the “I Can” section?
Start Now
End the violence toward yourself and start noticing and changing phrases like:
I can’t
I’m afraid
I’m dumb
I’ll never
To sayings like:
I can
I will
I’m awesome
I’m able to
YOU. CAN. DO. IT